Why Me?

When my clients recount stories of past trauma and life-altering events, they beg me to tell them why. Why did this happen? What could they have done differently? These are some of my most heartbreaking conversations. And through the years, I’ve distilled my advice down to one rule.

Stay aware.

In situational awareness training, a disruptive event we can’t avert is called the “bang.” Right of bang is the wrong side, when we’re reacting to the bang after it happens. We want to stay as far left of bang as possible. 

How? Watch the environment to establish a baseline—what you expect to see there. When you see something that doesn’t belong, or notice something missing, that’s an anomaly. If you see an anomaly in your environment and the context—additional clarifying information—doesn’t explain it, the bang is coming your way.

This is only one of the crucial topics I wrote about in my book The Primal Primer: Survive Anything, Slay Anxiety, and Exit the System. This vital guide covers a range of survival and self-care topics. These include situational awareness, wilderness survival, harnessing fear, and more. 

Sudden felonious assaults and fatal weather aren’t the only dangers out there waiting for you. There are slow bang events, too. Scams, disgruntled employees, even suicides. Warning signs manifest long before the bang. After it’s over, people are left scratching their heads wondering “How could we have seen it coming?”

Do you want to see the bang coming?

That’s what I want for you. So stay aware of your environment. It sounds simple but can be a struggle for the untrained. What does an anomaly look like? How can you tell a true threat from a harmless oddity?

I’ll answer those questions in my book. And I’ll share pieces of that book with you over the next few weeks before launch. Because there are answers, and it’s not too late to save your life.

I’ll be in touch soon with more information on how to stay aware and stay safe.